Stump the Sex Therapist

Ask me anything!

I have dozens of ideas for articles, but I like it best when I’m answering a real person’s actual question. What’s your question? Tell me here. If I don’t know the answer, I’ll fumble through it out loud and maybe we’ll both learn something.

My goodness, you stumped me with your very good question.

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• Pathos and pathology

• How to manipulate your lover

• Principles of partner selection

• How to get better at sex with the partner you already have

• Falling in love as a hobby

• What’s wrong with attachment theory

• The baggage train of hurt and resentment

• Preferences, requests, and demands

• Creating intentional relationships

• How to write your own sex user manual

• Reliable sources of happiness

• The best psychology books I’ve read so far

• Polyamory hinge dynamics

• What if all relationships had to be short?

• How to contain conflict

• Curiosity as a way of life

• How to invite honesty from your partner

• How to break up halfway

• Embracing disappointment

• Fabricated Options, Gretta’s version

• The benefits of a “table of contents” therapy session

• How to do couples therapy with conflictual couples

• Retirement planning in the age of machines

• Putting your worst foot forward: dating advice

• The top 10-ish individual therapy interventions I end up using in couples therapy

• Why I am increasingly annoyed by operating as a licensed therapist

• All the things partners of ADHDers should really know

• The algebra of predictions and emotions

• Tiers of solidity in building a life